Godly unmarried sexuality is more than a call to abstain from sexual activity. When it comes to discussions of sexuality, singles (from the never-married teen, to the senior-something single-again, and all those in-between) are often counseled in these sorts of ways: “Don’t! All who live in God’s world belong to him (Psalm 24:1, 2) and are designed and called to live a life of purity.Christ offers treasures to all who seek to live in a way that is pleasing to God as image bearers who are also sexual beings, including the unmarried. However, there is a profound reality of what godly unmarried sexuality is not. ” “It’s great, but it’s not for you, unless you’re ‘burning’…then get married! The unmarried to strive to be sexually pure and chaste—but then so are married folks.
Each individual person has a different set of needs, and desires.But God had much more in mind with romance than orgasms or even procreation, and so should we. When people in the world are expecting less and less of each other in dating, God isn’t.So, as singles we have to work harder in our not-yet-married relationships to preserve what marriage ought to picture and provide.Sadly, my immature and unhealthy desires predictably did much more harm than good. Maybe dating has been hard for you too, for these reasons or others. It’s enough to leave you like an eight-year-old, asking, “Mom, where do weddings come from?” The vision of marriage we see in God’s word — the beautiful, radical display of God’s infinite, persevering love for sinners — makes it worth it to date, and date well.Let us consider godly unmarried sexuality with three questions: What is it? It is not merely about what we are doing or not doing with our genitals!