Up until a few months ago, if any older man had come up to me and hit on me, I would have instantly walked away. I wouldn't have given him the time of day, or night for that matter. Slowly our friendship evolved into more, and we’ve been dating for two years.It’s not weird to me now, but that hasn’t stopped people from giving us weird looks when we are together or affectionate in public.” “I am dating someone who is close to 20 years older than me and one major perk, if I’m being honest, is that he has money. Assess Your Respective Sexualities Though I find that most people overemphasize the importance of sex and sexual attraction, intimacy is a factor worth considering. You’re not going to a get a true picture about someone’s lifestyle in a month; give yourself a few months of dating to make sure that you’ve seen him or her in as many real-life situations as possible. In actuality, this man is spiritually light-years ahead of most of the men (and probably women, too) that I've met before. This is often because he's been there, or somewhere similar, himself; he knows what he needed or would have needed at that time in his life. He has worked through (or at least has working through) most of his issues. For instance, he's not worried when I talk to another guy, nor does he care how many pairs of shoes I have.
He helps out around the house -- whether or not I ask him to! He takes care of me, while allowing me to take care of myself. I need my independence completely, yet he is there for me when I ask for help. We support each other, but allow one another to just be. This marks another one off the checklist (if there was one). He doesn't yell at me for it or tell me how childish I am. She helps break patterns so that you are no longer stuck dating the wrong guys, and helps mend relationships that are on the rocks.…When I don’t mention his age upfront, people think we are only five years apart. He likes me because I keep things young, fresh, and really funny.” “Dating up is a good idea if you are looking for someone who is mature.I guess that’s because he looks really young still and has all of his hair. I like my current boyfriend, even though it has only been three months, because I feel safe, comfortable, and secure with him.(It will never be exactly the same for two different people.) Assess Your Proclivity for Indulgences While many behaviors in the extreme form represent a problem or even an addiction, some of those same behaviors can be harmless if not taken to the extreme.Consider a list of activities that fall on the hedonistic end of the behavioral spectrum: drinking alcohol, gambling, shopping, traveling, and spending, for example.I always thought that women who dated older men had to have "daddy issues." Not necessarily. This is the first time in my life that I have ever dated anyone considerably older than me. In fact, for a long time when I began dating my partner, I kept asking myself what I was doing with a man so much older than I am.