Unlike an everyday face to face meeting where the words just tumble from your mouth in no apparent order.So why is it that so many guys and girls (yes girls too) fail miserably in avoiding the move from the Inbox to the trash can?Want to email that cute guy, but don’t know what to say? So you're browsing on an online dating site and you've found a handful of interesting guys you wouldn't mind knowing better.Since you've read my recent article on why women should consider initiating contact with men when dating online, you now have five great reasons to give it a whirl.
Your mother always told you so and you never really believed it too much, but the fact is that first impressions really count.Extensive research into online dating statistics show that there are some set rules that we all need to follow.It might not sound very romantic, but you can’t argue with stats and figures and following a set of guidelines will probably help you feel more comfortable when sending your first message.Anyways, he's probably pretty trustworthy, because look below, at the stock photo girl he posted on his page! A lot of it is basic, but not SO basic that it hasn't kept hundreds and thousands of online daters from violating these EXTREMELY BASIC principles anyway. Make your message one that someone — anyone — could conceivably want to answer. Chiara Atik at How About We has an important checkpoint for that message you're about to send off: Does it PROVE you read the profile of the person you're sending it to? Because then he or she isn't going to respond (unless you are unreasonably hot, in which case, what's your deal? You might think your boilerplate message is a clever one, but anyone who's had an online profile for more than two weeks can seriously smell the arrival of one in her inbox.Writing an interesting question or two can't guarantee a response, but NOTHING CAN. Don't waste your time and don't waste anyone else's — you have to put in a little work this way, but just do it.She’ll have 50 messages from men on the same site you’re signed up for.