I can remember sitting at her dining room table and her refusing to allow me to call back a guy I was dating who suddenly decided unbeknownst to me, that he no longer wanted to have anything to do with me.Let me start by first reflecting on one of my grandmother’s mantras.In other words, before we can go on the attack we have to take ownership of our own issues.I guarantee that the relationship did not begin with him mistreating you. This is why it is important to nip any bad behavior from your boo in the butt at first sight.Women who have no Asian male friends or interactions are limited to societal and media portrayal of Asian men which isn't flattering.Remember, it was just January of this year when comedian Steve Harvey joked about how no one would want to date Asian men.Regardless of what social media site you frequent, it’s almost inevitable that every couple of months an incident will occur that will cause a significant fracture between Black men and women who frequent that particular site.brothers have in regards to our sisters falling victim to state-sponsored violence, have led many Black women to openly disparage the support and protection they receive from us Black men as a whole.
It’s one thing to affirm yourself squarely in an anti-Black mode predicated in an unflinching self-hatred, but to view Black women as so insignificant that they don’t deserve even the slightest defense is troubling.My grandmother would tell me this often when she was bestowing jewels of advice to me in regards to love and dealing with men. This love mantra if you will, is what assisted me in deciding who I should continue to date and whose time on my clock has just ended. This is why when I hear other Black women make comments that Black men are more willing to treat White women better while dating and in a relationship than they would Black women, I have to offer the screw face.She also often instructed me to never beg a man to love me. Now, this topic is an onion of sorts because it is packed with so many layers that I even had trouble deciding how I should attack it.Sure some may work out, hit the weights and look strong but they lament that women do judge a book by its cover.In essence, they find this world of online dating extremely limiting because of the limits placed on them by America's standard of beauty. And now with the proliferation of online dating apps and websites, it can be even more daunting.